The 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman

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The 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman

1. Faith – A Virtuous Woman serves God with all of her heart, mind, and soul. She seeks His will for her life and follows His ways. (Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 31: 29 – 31, Matthew 22: 37, John 14: 15, Psalm 119: 15

2. Marriage – A Virtuous Woman respects her husband. She does him good all the days of her life. She is trustworthy and a helpmeet. (Proverbs 31: 11- 12, Proverbs 31: 23, Proverbs 31: 28, 1 Peter 3, Ephesians 5, Genesis2: 18)

3.  Mothering – A Virtuous Woman teaches her children the ways of her Father in heaven. She nurtures her children with the love of Christ, disciplines them with care and wisdom, and trains them in the way they should go. (Proverbs 31: 28, Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 22: 6, Deuteronomy 6, Luke 18: 16)

4. Health – A Virtuous Woman cares for her body. She prepares healthy food for her family. (Proverbs 31: 14 – 15, Proverbs 31: 17, 1 Corinthians 6: 19, Genesis 1: 29, Daniel 1, Leviticus 11)

5. Service – A Virtuous Woman serves her husband, her family, her friends, and her neighbors with a gentle and loving spirit. She is charitable. (Proverbs 31: 12, Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20, 1 Corinthians 13: 13)

6. Finances – A Virtuous Woman seeks her husband’s approval before making purchases and spends money wisely. She is careful to purchase quality items which her family needs. (Proverbs 31: 14, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 18, 1 Timothy 6: 10, Ephesians 5: 23, Deuteronomy 14: 22, Numbers 18: 26)

7.  Industry – A Virtuous Woman works willingly with her hands. She sings praises to God and does not grumble while completing her tasks. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 24, Proverbs 31: 31, Philippians 2: 14)

8. Homemaking – A Virtuous Woman is a homemaker. She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. (Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20 – 22, Proverbs 31: 27, Titus 2: 5, 1 Peter 4: 9, Hebrews 13: 2)

9. Time – A Virtuous Woman uses her time wisely. She works diligently to complete her daily tasks. She does not spend time dwelling on those things that do not please the Lord. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 19, Proverbs 31: 27, Ecclesiastes 3, Proverbs 16: 9, Philippians 4:8 )

10. Beauty – A Virtuous Woman is a woman of worth and beauty. She has the inner beauty that only comes from Christ. She uses her creativity and sense of style to create beauty in her life and the lives of her loved ones. (Proverbs 31: 10Proverbs 31: 21 – 22, Proverbs 31: 24 -25, Isaiah 61: 10, 1 Timothy 2: 9, 1 Peter 3: 1 – 6)

Lowest Point

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If Joseph had not been sold as a slave by his brothers, he would not have ended up in Potiphar’s house. If he had not been in Potiphar’s house, he would not have been thrown into prison. If he had not been thrown into prison, he would not have interpreted the dreams of Pharaoh’s officers and then be summoned to interpret Pharaoh’s dreams and eventually be promoted to become prime minister over the Egyptian empire.

If you think you are at the lowest point in your life today, God is telling you, “Don’t give up. It isn’t over!” Just like Joseph in the Bible, God can make the lowest point in your life the launching pad for one of His greatest callings.

Travel Alone

Aku suka kata-kata ini:

“Travel can be one of the most rewarding forms on introspection”

Aku lebih memilih menyebutnya private escape atau menyepi. Sesi introspeksi, mendiamkan semua pertanyaan dan amarah, memilah semuanya satu per satu dengan penuh kejujuran dengan diri anda sendiri. Menyepi bagi saya adalah saat dimana saya tidak membutuhkan siapapun menemani perjalanan ini.

Saya pribadi suka sekali dengan pantai dan senja. 2 hal yang paling bisa membuat saya nyaman dan bisa menjadi alat untuk menyaurkan berbagai hal yang saya pikirkan. Jadi, saya pun akan memilih tempat dimana 2 hal ini bisa diakkmodasi dengan maksimal. Satu hal lagi: saya suka tempat yang tidak begitu ramai dan memiliki ruang privasi yang luas sehingga saya bisa untuk merasakan sesi ini sebagai sesi untuk saya dan bukan untuk beramai-ramai ditengah kegaduhan kota.

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My Travel Alone Session. Captured by Jeni Karay

Tujuannya sederhana: Bagaimana anda netral melihat kehidupan tanpa ada intervensi oleh orang-orang terdekat anda. Anda bisa memutuskan kemana saja anda ingin pergi, ataupun hanya menulis jurnal anda di kamar. Atau bisa memilih aktivitas seperti saya: menangis sesuka hati, tanpa harus menjaga wibawa didepan orang-orang yang dekat dengan saya. Bagi saya menyepi ini memberikan saya ruang untuk menahan diri, menyendiri untuk mencari apa sebenarnya apa sih yang ingin saya lakukan dalam hidup. Apakah orang-orang yang menyakiti saya layak untuk saya pertahankan dalam kehidupan ataukah ini saatnya untuk meninggalkan mereka dan melanjutkan perjalanan.

Menyepi mengajarkan saya untuk menyerahkan suatu titik kehidupan kepada waktu. Anda akan terpesona bagaimana waktu dapat mengendapkan suatu isu dan memunculkan apa sebenarnya yang terjadi. Tidak semua hal bisa diselesaikan dengan waktu yang berjalan karna waktu hanya menguraikan sebuah babak kehidupan. Yang memutuskan apakah babak itu mempengaruhi kita atau tidak, adalah keputusan diri kita sendiri. Maukah kita semakin melukai hati, atau sudah saatnya melihat titik masalah hanya sebagai pendewasaan untuk menggapai masa depan cerah yang membentang.

Percayalah. Anda akan terpesona bagaimana ketika anda pergi dan kemudian kembali, ada sudut pandang dalam diri anda yang berubah. Bukan menjadi suatu hal yang melelahkan hati, namun anda bisa menghadapinya dengan kepala dingin. Hal ini menghindari respon anda yang dapat melukai orang-orang disekeliling anda. Daripada berbicara dengan mengeluarkan kata-kata menyakitkan, sudah saatnya kita mulai berpikir bagaimana menghadapi setiap hal dengan cara yang elegan.

pergi Menyendiri membuat saya untuk melihat seberapa besar tenaga yang sudah saya keluarkan untuk sebuah hal atau masalah. Apakah sebegitu signifikannya kah untuk menguras tenaga saya? Apa langkah selanjutnya yang bisa saya lakukan bila hal ini kembali terjadi? Bagaimana sikap hati saya untuk merespon apa yang selanjutnya terjadi? Pertanyaan-pertanyaan ini hanya dapat anda pikirkan dengan matang ketika anda berdiri seorang diri. Bukan kata orang tua, gebetan, sahabat atau teman anda. Tapi apa yang diri anda sendiri inginkan.

Menyendiri adalah cara saya untuk mengembalikan tenaga saya. Setelah didera berbagai kejadian, hal yang mungkin tidak sepenuhnya sesuai dengan yang saya rencanakan, menyendiri memberikan saya pilihan untuk mengevaluasi berbagai hal.

Tidak selamanya menyendiri itu buruk. Kita butuh untuk berdiri seorang diri ditengah keramaian untuk memahami siapa sebenarnya diri kita sendiri. Apa sebenarnya yang diinginkan oleh hati kita.

Make Prayer A Priority

I’ve heard it said that the first 10 or 15 minutes of each day really determine how the rest of your day will go. And if you begin your day in prayer, acknowledging God as first in your life, you are making a wise choice.

Too often, rather than putting Jesus Christ first in our lives, we allow many other thoughts and “things” to consume us. But Scripture reminds us that anything we love more, serve more, or worship more than Jesus Himself is idolatry, plain and simple! Jesus will not share His place of Lordship in our lives. So before you pray, before you start asking, make sure that you’re practicing the principle of putting God first.

I know life can be busy. I know obligations must be met. I’m just suggesting that before we tend to our responsibilities, we should devote ourselves to God in prayer. I need that, and so do you.

Each of us needs a set-aside, set-apart encounter with the living God at key moments throughout our day in order to navigate this thing called life. There can be no answered prayers until we’re willing to spend time kneeling before God to receive what He delights and desires to give. Keeping our focus on God through prayer reaps great rewards.

Are you making prayer a priority in your life? Do you give Jesus the first thoughts of your day? Tomorrow, before your feet hit the floor, lift your heart up to God in adoration and praise, thanking Him for the light of a new day.

Find peace, purpose and strength with Jesus in prayer.

Source : Bible Youversion Devotion

Pentingnya Berdiam Diri

Sebagai profesional muda, setiap saat, setiap detik, setiap hari, informasi selalu membanjiri kehidupan kita. Televisi, radio, baliho, pamflet, notifikasi ponsel dan masih banyak lagi. Dari waktu anda bangun diwaktu pagi hingga tertidur kembali di malam hari, informasi tidak henti-hentinya mengalir. Kehidupan yang penuh dengan kesibukan bahkan menjadi kebanggaan dan penanda bahwa seseorang begitu “penting” dalam dunia profesinya.

Tapi, pernahkah anda mengalami begitu amat sangat lelah dengan informasi yang mengalir setiap saat? Saat menyelesaikan aktifitas anda seharian, ada rasa kelelahan secara batin. Seolah dari hari ke hari, anda semakin mengosongkan diri untuk hal-hal yang berada di sekeliling kehidupan anda.

Kadang, setiap liburan panjang atau weekend tiba, kita begitu bahagia bisa menghilang sementara dari kesibukan dunia kita. Merasa begitu bebas dan bahagia. Kita menganggap liburan sebagai ajang untuk “mengisi kembali” semangat kita. Tapi lucunya, waktu kita kembali ke kehidupan pekerjaan, tidak jarang kita menjadi lesu kembali. Tidak bersemangat. Berharap hari libur dan weekend datang kembali.

Bila perasaan seperti ini mulai anda alami, sudah saatnya anda untuk beristirahat sejenak dengan berdiam diri. Kenapa harus berdiam diri? Jawabannya simpel. Untuk menata kembali dan mengevaluasi diri kita dari setiap hal yang sudah dilakukan. Entah itu dalam hal pekerjaan, kesehatan, pendidikan ataupun relasi. Berdiam diri memberikan waktu bagi diri kita sendiri untuk merenungi, mengevaluasi, menertawakan hal-hal bodoh yang sudah dilakukan, sedikit tangis untuk hal yang belum diakhiri dengan baik, menanamkan goal baru yang menjadi fokus ke depan dan mengumpulkan tekad untuk kembali ke perjalanan kehidupan. Bila anda berada di posisi decision maker, berdiam diri menjadi hal yang tepat saat harus mengambil keputusan penting. Karna hanya dengan membiarkan diri anda sendiri, berpikir, menelaah, anda akan berada dalam posisi netral tanpa intervensi pikiran orang lain dalam memutukan suatu kebijakan.

 Saat kita menyempatkan diri kita untuk menyendiri, saat itu juga kita menutrisi diri kita untuk menjadi orang yang bisa belajar mengendalikan dirinya sendiri. Sebagai catatan bagi pembaca, berdiam diri disini bukan untuk mengosongkan pikiran ataupun menghayal yah.. Jika anda orang yang beragama, berdiam diri bisa menjadi tempat evaluasi diri dan berbicara secara terbuka dengan Tuhan. Selamat berproses dalam sekolah kehidupan.

Sense of Travel

Sense of Travel

Travel, like all great adventures comes with a price. Missed flights, lost luggage, and broken hearts. We come home, clinging to whatever memories we have left.

My dear sole sister once wrote why travelers are drawn to sunsets. We drive for miles and hike up mountains just to experience it from the best perpective. We tirelessly chase the sun just to watch it fade away. “It’s a bittersweet metaphor so blindingly beautiful, but lasts only for the briefest of moments. You blink and then it’s gone.” But no matter how exhausting, we do it all over again anyway. For what other choice do we have?

A bittersweet reminder that I once let go of all my fears, despite knowing that our time together was limited. But I’m keeping it anyway, because it also reminds me that all these goodbyes haven’t turned me into cold heartless soul. If anything, it reminds me to live fully in the present with the hope that someday, I’ll find a love worth crossing oceans for.

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Forget Being A Workaholic: Why Balance Is Key To Living A Life Free Of Regret

Forget Being A Workaholic: Why Balance Is Key To Living A Life Free Of Regret

Okay, I admit it: I’m a bit of a workaholic. I love what I do, and on a consistent basis, I unwind after a long day at work with my laptop, only to find myself working again.

All of us are guilty of being some sort of “-holic” these days. Whether you’re addicted to work, Netflix, Facebook, the gym, the party scene or whatever else, all of us have things in which we indulge a bit too much. But, who is at fault if we do what we love all the time?

It makes sense to do things that make us happy, right?

After years of following the fun for so long, it seems that the keys to happiness aren’t found in doing only the “happy” things. Rather, the keys are in balance: equal parts pleasure and pain, in all areas of our lives.

The most interesting people in the world are the ones who have been through the whole gamut of life experiences. These are the people who have had it all, lost it all, then worked through the pain and worked through the pleasure to build themselves up again.

The truly happy people of the world have figured out that balance is the true path to happiness, and they take care not to get too caught up in addictive things. They’ve realized that one cannot and should not allow one area of life to rule all others.

For the rest of us, however, the path to happiness is a difficult one. We may love doing one thing and think we’re on the right track, but after a while, we move on to yet another thing, into which we inevitably get sucked.

In life, finding balance starts with owning up to what we really value, and to be honest, that isn’t so easy. None of us literally values just one thing, either; we value many things all at once — career, friends, health and adventure, to name just a few. How could we honestly be happy if we valued one above the other?

Therein lies the kicker. Life for a Millennial is not just about figuring out what we love and what we don’t love. It’s about navigating the balance between all things and all values. Once one area supersedes another, we begin to seesaw out of control, and before we know it, our faces are down in the dirt and we’re wondering what the hell happened.

In psychology, our value system is the single-most important factor for determining thoughts, feelings and behaviors. It’s these values that lead us to seek out or avoid experiences that shape our views and our attitudes, especially in regards to happiness.

Whatever you value, you typically do, often at the expense of your other values. You may value work, like I do, and spend a lot of time achieving purpose through your career. However, doing so will only get you so far. You have to make room for other things you value and not let them fall by the wayside.

The core issue here is how the balance of your values enhances or diminishes your quality of life. Any imbalanced pattern puts the path to happiness further outside your grasp.

In recent years, a nurse and her elderly patients at a terminal care facility put together a captivating study about regret. The study asked dying people what they regretted most about life. (See the infographic here: Top 10 Regrets Of The Dying.)

As these people are quite possibly in the best positions to answer this question, the study was downright eye-opening and showed us just how important balance really is. Each of the top 10 regrets held personal values at the core of living a happy and fulfilled life.

The top two regrets had to do with where they spent — or in this case, did not spend — the majority of their time.

The number one regret among the elderly was that they were never brave enough to pursue their dreams and instead, settled for what others expected them to do. In other words, they ignored balancing passion and personal growth at the behest of their other values.

Coming in at number two was never making time for friends and family. Excessive dedication to work can often lead a person to spend less time with their loved ones. This is one area of balance that might not only hurt you, but others, as well.

Life can definitely be a double-edged sword, and where one thing can get you, another thing canreally get you. So, do yourself a favor and cut out some of your “holic” tendencies. Indulge in more things you value, but never get around to doing.

Introduce some true balance to your life. Go to the gym; take your loved one on a date; get out into nature with your friends or go on a vacation. If you need to spend a little extra time at work to get that promotion because you value hard work, then absolutely go for it.

One day, you will find yourself at the end of your life, only to realize that you never really lived, and you were never really happy.

Photo Courtesy: We Heart It

Source: http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/finding-balance-in-your-life/783609/