Yang menyebabkan seseorang tidak mampu mengikhlaskan mantan adalah kegagalan pikiran menyadari akan hukum keutuhan. Maksudnya, hanya mau mendapatkan, dan tidak mau melepaskan. Hanya mau bertemu dan terus bersama, dan menolak perpisahan, serta kesendirian. Padahal untuk hidup dibutuhkan keduanya.
Napas mengingatkan saya akan hukum keutuhan ini. Manusia hidup karena menarik napas, mendapatkan, lalu menghembuskan napas, melepaskan. Bisa bayangkan kalau manusia terus-terusan hanya menarik napas, mendapatkan? Manusia tidak akan bisa hidup kalau maunya hanya menarik napas, mendapatkan.
Jadi kalau memang berniat hidup dan ikhlas melepaskan mantan, saya butuh melatih pikiran menyadari bahwa diri ini tidak bisa melarikan diri dari hukum keutuhan.
Ada waktunya mendapatkan seseorang tercinta, ada waktunya ikhlas melepaskannya. Ketika pasangan hidup memiliki kelebihan, ia akan selalu disertai dengan kekurangan. Gembira selalu diikuti dengan sedih. Di mana ada puncak gunung, di situ ada jurang. Bahkan semakin tinggi gunung, maka jurangnya pun pasti semakin curam dan dalam.
Saya sepakat dengan kata Pramoedya Ananta Toer, “Seorang terpelajar harus sudah berbuat adil sejak dalam pikiran …”. Begitu pun, “Ikhlas melepaskan mantan harus sudah dilakukan sejak dalam pikiran …”

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It Starts With Me Taking Responsibility

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If you want to do all that God has called you to do so that He gets the glory and you get the joy, then it starts with you taking responsibility for your life.
There comes a point in time when you have to man (or woman) up and take responsibility for your own life. That time is now. No more can you blame your parents, your teachers, or lack of opportunities, for who you are or who you are becoming. The Bible tells us that “we are more than conquerors” through Christ, which doesn’t leave much room for excuses  (Romans 8:37). Jesus said it, so we better believe it!
Too often people allow the past circumstances to determine the future outcome. The only power that your past has over your future is the power that you give it. God has a great plan for your future so quit making excuses as to why or how you can’t get there. Take responsibility for the person you are today and trust that God will provide you with all you need to become the person He is calling you to be. Jesus doesn’t agree with our excuses nor does He affirm us when we play the blame game. As He said to Paul, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). Your weaknesses are simply opportunities for Jesus to reveal His grace in your life.
 Do you recognize any situation, limitation, or person in your life who you’re blaming for how things have turned out for you? Instead, choose to take responsibility for your life and trust that Jesus will turn any weakness into a strength for His glory and for your joy.
“…I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us” (Philippians 3:13-14).
Source: http://bible.com/r/GX

Selamat Datang 2017!

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Tahun terakhir dalam strata 2. Tahun kesekian jadi jombloers (I don’t mind about that). Tahun terakhir menetap di kota Salatiga. Such a great journey dan betapa dahsyatnya penyertaan Tuhan yang tak pernah kenal lelah menuntun, membimbing dan melindungi.

Banyak perjalanan ke tempat-tempat asing yang sebelumnya belum pernah disentuh (I’ll tell you later di tulisan-tulisan berikutnya). Banyak juga orang-orang terdekat yang disaring dapat melanjutkan perjalanan bersama di tahun 2017 atau mereka harus berhenti di tahun 2016 dan tidak dapat mengikuti ke tahun 2017. Beberapa kepergian dan kedatangan mereka yang baru.

2017 penuh dengan berbagai proses, perjalanan, pendewasaan, pengikisan karakter, dan masih banyak lagi. Satu hal yang tetap di tahun ini: Tuhan yang sama, yang menyertai di tahun-tahun sebelumya tetap akan menyertaiku di tahun 2017.

Selamat datang tahun 2017!

Jadi Perempuan Itu…

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Jadi perempuan itu harus berani berkata tidak. Tidak kepaa ketidaknyamanan, ketidak sesuaian dan ketidak sinergisan.

Jadi perempuan itu berani bertindak tegas. Tidak membiarkan dirinya dipermainkan.

Jadi perempuan itu tidak harus selalu mengiyakan sesuatu agar diterima dan dianggap sopan dalam masyarakat ataupun lingkungan pergaulan.

Jadi perempuan itu berani berdiri untuk kebenaran. Tidak mempermainkan dirinya atau dipermainkan oleh orang lain.

Jadi perempuan itu bukan tentang jenis kelamin, tapi bagaimana kehadirannya membawa warna berbeda dan inspirasi kemanapun dirinya melangkahkan kaki.

Jadi perempuan itu indah. Ketika dia mengerti siapa dirinya sendiri. Apa bagian tergelap dari dirinya, menerima bagian itu dan menggunakan bagian itu menjadi senjata ampuh dan kekuatan untuk menghadapi berbagai tantangan yang ada didepannya.

A Story

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Writing a story isn’t bout making your peaceful fantasies come true. the whole point of the story is the character arc. You didn’t think joy could change a person, did you? Joy is what you feel when the conflict is over. but it’s conflict that changes a person. You put your characters through hell. you put them through hell. that’s the only way we change. if the point of life is the same as the point of a story, the point of life is character transformation. if I got any comfort as I set out on my first story, it was that in nearly every story, the protagonist is transformed. He’s a jerk at the beginning and nice at the end, or a coward at the beginning and brave at the end. if the character doesn’t change, the story hasn’t happened yet. And if story is derived from real life, if story is just condensed version of life then life itself may be designed to change us so that we evolve from one kind of person to another.

Made For Life

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I’ve heard that ships weren’t built to be housed in harbour. So look at yourself in the mirror and tell me you weren’t designed for adventure. I know it’s scary, but think about your passions and your desires and your longings. Weren’t you made to go just a little farther than your fear suggests? Living  a good story isn’t safe, but it’s meaningful. Face your fear, conquer it. And if it conquers you, show it how it didn’t end you. Get up and live another great story. One fine day, it will be your turn – believe me it will be your turn. You will leaves homes, cities and countries to pursue grander ambitions. You will leave friends, lovers and possibilities for the chance to roam the world and make deeper connections. You will defy your fear of change, hold your head high and do what you once thought was unthinkable: walk away. And it will be scary at first. But what I hope you’ll find in the end is that in leaving, you don’t just find love, adventure or freedom. More than anything, you find you.