A Story

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Writing a story isn’t bout making your peaceful fantasies come true. the whole point of the story is the character arc. You didn’t think joy could change a person, did you? Joy is what you feel when the conflict is over. but it’s conflict that changes a person. You put your characters through hell. you put them through hell. that’s the only way we change. if the point of life is the same as the point of a story, the point of life is character transformation. if I got any comfort as I set out on my first story, it was that in nearly every story, the protagonist is transformed. He’s a jerk at the beginning and nice at the end, or a coward at the beginning and brave at the end. if the character doesn’t change, the story hasn’t happened yet. And if story is derived from real life, if story is just condensed version of life then life itself may be designed to change us so that we evolve from one kind of person to another.

Made For Life

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I’ve heard that ships weren’t built to be housed in harbour. So look at yourself in the mirror and tell me you weren’t designed for adventure. I know it’s scary, but think about your passions and your desires and your longings. Weren’t you made to go just a little farther than your fear suggests? Living  a good story isn’t safe, but it’s meaningful. Face your fear, conquer it. And if it conquers you, show it how it didn’t end you. Get up and live another great story. One fine day, it will be your turn – believe me it will be your turn. You will leaves homes, cities and countries to pursue grander ambitions. You will leave friends, lovers and possibilities for the chance to roam the world and make deeper connections. You will defy your fear of change, hold your head high and do what you once thought was unthinkable: walk away. And it will be scary at first. But what I hope you’ll find in the end is that in leaving, you don’t just find love, adventure or freedom. More than anything, you find you.

It’s Like That With Life

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I think this is when most people give up on their stories. They come out of college wanting to change the world, wanting to get married, wanting to have kids and change the way people buy office supplies. But they get into the middle and discover it was harder than they thought. They can’t see the distant shore anymore, and they wonder if their paddling is moving them forward. None of the trees behind them are getting smaller and none of the trees ahead are getting bigger. They take it out in their spouses, and they go looking for an easier story. Here’s the truth about telling stories with your life. It’s going to sound like a great idea, and you’re going to get excited about it, and then when it comes time to do the work, you’re not going to want to do it. It’s like that with writing books, and it’s like that with life. People love to have lived a great story, but few people like the work it takes to make it happen. But joy costs pain.